Frustration Overload

You’ve had it. Every intention to increase your income, some whatever the •∞£© always shows up, derailing it.

Not your experience? Then let me save your time. This website’s unlikely to add value to you, and I wish you happy seeking elsewhere.

You Could Be at the Edge of Breaking Through

Back to our challenge. As underearners we often blame plenty outside ourselves for our chronic earning little and enjoying life less. Yes, misfortunes can happen to anyone. When they seem to single us out time after time after time, their gift may be truth we just won’t face that we’ve let deep fears lock us into a kind of financial anorexia. Like the well known eating disorder, anorexia nervosa, we’re so stuck on preserving control over our lives that we don’t see how we’ve set ourselves up for failure. For sufferers of anorexia nervosa, the underlying fear driving self-starvation is often of being fat. I propose for us financial underachievers: we’re seeking to assuage fear of loss of control and dread of discomfort. People with healthier earnings typically undergo episodes of discomfort at work and through their careers. They emerge with reinforced self-confidence. We avoid that discomfort, and we take a hit to our self-confidence.

You’ve found Dream-Energizing Earning Partners, a website aimed at creating mutually supportive connections among underearners, financial underachievers, or financial anorectics. It’s aimed at creating a special place for sharing our processes of accepting our responsibility in our earning below what we could. We’re betting that by this sharing we stand a much better chance of working through tangled strands of codependency—habitual thinking that minimizes the value of our own opinions, feelings, and perceptions while obsessively regarding others’ interests as highly important. While it may indeed be frightening to face uncomfortable situations instead of using our highly developed avoidance strategies, when we’re sharing rewards we’ve experienced with each other, we’re more likely to open up to taking reasonable risks ourselves. We’re about ending the isolation that had kept us locked into our familiar cruddy—if comfortable—cozy hangouts, sharing with people who’ve experienced the same stunting of themselves. We’re exploring how our underearning can yield to renewal of forsaken dreams for what our lives could become. If you’re unaware of such abandoned dreams, maybe the process will open you to a happy vision for your life as if transported to just before you started trading life energy for money.

Not Sure this is You?

Thrilling prospect, you might be saying. I’m still not sure that underearner applies to me. Could such a financial anorexia be what’s bedeviling me? Certainly valid questions, and, writing this in anticipation you’ll stop by, I can’t say that I know either. To help people with lingering doubts, here’s a list of questions for people wondering if they’re affected with an underearning financial underachievement pattern. The more you respond yes, the more likely you’ll find Dream-Energizing Earning Partners helpful.

▪   Are you easily intimidated by others?
▪   Do you tend to assume that someone else merits authority over you before even probing their qualifications?
▪   Do you feel trapped in your present earning arrangement (job/business) and highly unsatisfied by your earnings?
▪   Are you prone to giving up in a conflict with someone because you want everyone to like you and are frightened should you stand up for yourself you'll prove helpless and lose even more?
▪   Is your financial life cluttered and chaotic, making you want to avoid tracking balances and knowing whether you have funds for payments you've issued?
▪   Do you simply know deep down that you don't deserve a raise or a job or business prospects with greater earning potential?
▪   When comparing people who earn about what you do with people who are significantly more financially successful, do you tend to see those like you as virtuous while dismissing those earning more as a bunch of rude assholes?
▪   Do you often wonder why other people seem so naturally endowed with self-confidence?
▪   If you or someone else questions why your earnings aren't better, are you quick to note factors outside yourself and likely beyond your control as responsible?

Now What?

What you do is totally up to you. If you’re open for suggestions, however, I’m happy to throw some ideas towards you.

1.  Bookmark this Dream-Energizing Earning Partners website. Set up a reminder on your calendar to return at least twice in the next 30 days.
2.  Write about the last two years of your earning history (or if you haven't been working two years yet your whole earning history) asking how fear of acting as if you mattered kept you from doing better. If writing's not your thing, spend 15-30 minutes talking on this topic into a device set up to record your voice.
3.  Ask one person who knows you quite well to tell you candidly what they typically hear from you when you mention your job or other earning situation.
4.  Don't give up even if you decide that Dream-Energizing Earning Partners won't work for you. You're worth so much more than giving up, and continuing to search may turn up the exact resource you need.

Thanks and Welcome!

You may never know how much energy your stopping by and considering has passed to someone else working at recovery from financial anorexia. May you experience many benefits, and, should you find this place brings healing and value to you, do visit again; help build a peer-support network among people affected by financial underachievement!